There are more than just nail patterns or fingertips that differentiate people. They’re defined by more than just money or career or fame. And they’re more than what you see at face value. On the surface, individuality is encouraged in societies, it’s seen as a sign of the person’s uniqueness. But deep down where it really matters, children are taught the same stereotypical values. “You have to be first in class because second doesn’t matter and Mrs___’s daughter came first last year’,“You should put on Fair and Lovely every day because guys only want to marry fair girls”, “Don’t eat so much, nobody wants their son to marry a fat girl”, and the oh-so-common “Learn how to cook because every girl has to work in the kitchen someday.” Because apparently all girls want in life is to be married to some egotistical guy who judges their weight and colour and wants his wife to work in the kitchen and have lots of pretty babies.
Sorry, not the point. The point is that every person is unique and wanting them to be like everybody else is destroying the part of them that makes them different…special. People tend to stick with their own kind and anyone who’s the least bit different is regarded as a threat. Just because you don’t know or understand a person or their culture or values doesn’t mean they’re not amazing in their own different way.
It’s the hardest when you’re a teenager and in high school. Individuality isn’t regarded as brilliance, it’s regarded as “weird” and the person is branded a “freak” for the four very long and torturous years. But when you go out in the real world, that’s when your talent is recognized. You find people who think like you do and appreciate you for your talent rather than how rich or smart or gorgeous you are.
I’m not saying that beauty isn’t important because no matter how much we evolve, we’re superficial at the core and everyone is drawn to beauty. It’s not something that can change but it doesn’t mean you take only that into consideration. You regard the person as a whole, what makes them who they are, what makes them laugh or cry or just different, you know?
So don’t be afraid to be who you really are, even if it’s not something that everybody appreciates. Be the person who doesn’t care, who makes the change and who makes the rest of us believe in the different.
One voice joined to another is like drops of water collected together, they cause a ripple in the whole river that eventually breaks the dam. So fight against the beliefs ingrained in you since childhood and change the stereotype.
Uplifting article written by Somayya Salahuddin.