How many times do we find ourselves having the urge to point out something that someone did wrong? Some of us go ahead and blurt it out without thinking of the consequences and some of us keep it within ourselves, quietly judging the person. Both scenarios have serious effects on how that person will perceive and how we’ll perceive them. I understand that as Muslims, it is our duty to spread knowledge and try to correct those who might have taken a faulty path as it is narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Convey from me, even if it is a verse”
But, should it become an egotistical boost? Should it become a fame seeking competition? Most certainly not. Knowledge is power, yes, but it is not an excuse to bring down other people. People who do spend their time seeking knowledge from The Qur’an and Sunnah are truly blessed as they have been guided to this prosperous path and have been given the means such as their reading and learning abilities to apply this knowledge. Therefore it is their utmost responsibility to use this knowledge wisely. The point is to remind the person or correct the person of their fault GENTLY. Our job is to remind, it is Allah who decides whom He wishes to guide and Allah knows best. Once we have conveyed the correct way, we have to move on. Under no circumstances is it okay to spread someone else’s wrong doing by talking about the person behind their back. That is a hypocritical move and will help no one in the end. As Prophet Muhammad (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) says, “Truly your blood, your property, and your honor are inviolable.”
Now the question is: what is the right balance between correcting ourselves and correcting others? I believe finding the right balance will always be a struggle as we are constantly learning something new about our faith and religion. Each time we read the Qur’an and Hadith, we will learn something fresh, something we missed the last time. That’s the miracle of this religion. Each aspect has depth beyond our comprehension yet we still need to strive to understand as much as we can. As Allah states in the Qur’an, “Do not you know that Allah Knows what is in the heaven and the earth, indeed it is all in a record, and that is easy for Allah.” (Verse # 70, Surah al-Hajj)
When we do find that new piece of information, we should spread it, but not impose it. First we improve ourselves on that matter and then convey the message because half of what other people take from us is from our behavior. Our actions speak louder than words. So basically, we need to keep ourselves in check first and then go ahead to teach/correct/remind others. Please try to keep that in mind before you go pointing fingers at someone the next time. It’ll do you and everyone else good. Trust me.
May Allah continuously guide us to the right path and make us among the best of the best.
May Allah grant us a prosperous life both in this world and the Hereafter.