Do you have questions about struggles with friends, family, or spirituality? Or perhaps you just want some practical advice from someone else? Just ask ME!
Ask ME is a Q & A page where you get feedback from Muslim adults and youth who’ve “been there” and want to share what they’ve learned. But Ask ME does not offer fatwas, and it is not read or answered by Muslim scholars. If you want to ask questions that are personal and you’d prefer not to have them posted online, just let us know in your subject as “personal”.
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Here is a list of sample questions and answers!
Q. Hi, I’m 17 years and have a good Muslim friend who told me about Islam. I want to become Muslim but I’m a girl and I don’t want to change how I dress, and I don’t want to hurt my parents (My mother is Christian and my father doesn’t really have a religion). What should I do?
A. To become Muslim, all you have to do is believe that there is nothing worthy of worship besides God alone, who has no partners or intermediaries, and that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is the last prophet and messenger of God. If you believe this, then you just state this belief aloud, and you are Muslim. After saying this testimony, learn as much as you can about the Oneness of God (Tawheed) and how to pray before worrying about changing your clothes and/or telling your parents anything. So for now, become Muslim because you don’t know how long you will live on this earth, but just focus on Tawheed and prayer; then ask Allah (God) to help you become stronger so you can do other requirements of Islam too.
Q. As salaamu’alaikum. I’m a 19-year-old Pakistani-American girl, but I don’t wear hijab or pray. But I met this really nice Muslim guy from Egypt at my university and we fell in love. He’s a good Muslim and he inspired me to want to be better. Now we want to get married so we don’t do anything sinful, but I know my parents will never accept him. What should I do?
A. May Allah bless you for taking the steps toward being a better Muslim. This is truly a mercy from Allah and shows that He loves you. For now, it’s best to focus on building your relationship with Allah before thinking about a life-changing event as serious as marriage. So become consistent in your prayers and hijab, and study Qur’an and establish a good relationship with your parents. During this time, avoid spending time alone with this guy or talking to him without your parents knowing. If he’s good for you, Allah will bring you together with your parents’ blessing inshaaAllah. And Allah knows best.
Q. Salaams. I’m a 21-year-old med student studying far away from my family. I try to practice Islam and lower my gaze in front of girls, but my best friend is not a good Muslim. He’s a really nice person but he makes it hard for me to stay away from haraam because he drinks and parties and has girlfriends. How can I deal with him?
A. May Allah bless you for wanting to be a good Muslim and stay away from wrong. Ideally, friends should help us do good, but in real life friends are different types. In general, we should keep good friends and stay away from bad friends. But these situations are not always that simple. So my suggestion is to talk to him about his habits to see if he’s willing to change. Then make Istikhaarah (the prayer asking Allah for guidance) on what you decide to do after that. In the end, do whatever is necessary to protect you from harm in this world and in the Hereafter.